If it’s every now and then and your child is receptive to help, asking her to fix one or two answers is fine, but often what happens is that parents get in a power struggle over making sure the entire assignment is correct.
And long-term assignments that may span an entire month or quarter exacerbate this tendency.
Because these projects are so large though, simply jumping into work generally makes the issue worse rather than better.
One of the toughest parts about seeing your kids through school is deciding to “let go.” To let them take responsibility, make mistakes, and “learn how to learn” under their own control.
But what happens when they get stuck, and aren’t able (or willing) to figure it out on their own?
Interestingly though, it isn’t that they’re not working diligently when they do finally sit down to work.
They’re just easily distracted and taken away from that work frequently.Set the timer for 15 minutes at first, and let your child know that if they work as hard as they can for that 15 minutes, they get to take a 5-minute break when it’s done.Then repeat that process, slowly increasing the working time up to 25 minutes. First, set the expectation: they need to record there assignments somewhere.” Then, instead of fully leaving it to them to work it out, open up a dialogue and try to let them come up with the steps. As they get the hang of it, you can help less and less over time.But don’t be afraid to help the process along when they’re young. I recently spoke to one mom who called our office in Fairfax looking for a tutor. She was making it a regular practice to tap into her freshman son’s school portal each day and print out his assignments so they would be ready for him when he came home from school. They’ll never have the opportunity to develop the skills they’ll need to do that if you don’t set the stage for them to do these things on their own.Now, keep in mind that this may not apply to elementary students, who are going to need more parental help planning out long term assignments until their executive functioning skills are developed enough to plan weeks ahead.When it comes down to it, our problem as parents is this: It’s incredibly tempting to check online or in your kid’s backpack to see what’s due…They’re already at the table, away from distractions, so start by tacking on 15-20 minutes either before or after dinner to review upcoming assignments for the week.You can ask And then have them outline the steps they need to take.Instead, we need to add in some planning into the process, and this is where you can help.A great way to do this is to make Sunday dinners the jumping off point for planning.