And off I go onto my next required work task, putting this stress-inducing internal narrative to rest and focusing on something that feels much more immediate and controllable.
Now, just because I think those things doesn’t mean that I will act on them.
At some fundamental, deep-rooted, psychological level, that may never change. students to talk about their thesis research as they describe themselves. In this case, however, the research mentioned is probably not that relevant to the reader.
So by focusing on making new contacts feel positive, you can shift your attention from what you are feeling to what they are feeling. student exploring careers, you find an alum from your institution on Linked In who is working as a manager at a company that interests you (or at least, a company you have heard other people with your background say they’re interested in). student at the University of Pennsylvania studying the transmigrational movements of artisans across Europe in the 17th century -- focusing on how the written word and visual representations of concepts such as harmony and rebellion gained prominence in poetic form. Starting the conversation off by confusing the reader is going to prime them for other less-than-positive emotional states.
Joseph Barber is associate director of career services at the University of Pennsylvania and a member of the Graduate Career Consortium -- an organization providing a national voice for graduate-level career and professional development leaders.
Socrates, Plato, and Aristotle viewed the formation of society as a reflection of the profound need for human affiliation rather than simply a contractual arrangement between otherwise detached individuals. Therefore, freedom is often perceived as a reward for political struggle, measured in terms of one’s ability to exercise individual “rights.” The ancients argued long before Sigmund Freud and the advent of modern psychology that the acquisition of genuine freedom involved a dual battle.
Also, where would the reader even start with this request? A rundown of all of the different companies that work in that field, with a corresponding glossary of key terms and position descriptions? It‘s a request that can make the reader feel overwhelmed.
Perhaps they would be happy to help, but the request feels so large that the reader simultaneously feels irked at being asked to provide it and guilty for not being the type of person who does.
Once someone has agreed to a request like this, the likelihood of them responding to future interactions increases considerably.
While every networking opportunity is distinctive, focusing on making your new contacts feel positive is never a bad approach to take -- and will minimize your own fears and frustrations.